Here on earth we are put together in families. Our loved ones become inexpressibly precious to us. We live in intimate associations. One gets so close to mother and father, wife or husband, sons and daughters, that they literally become a part of one's very life. Then comes a day when a strange change comes over one that we love. He is transformed before our very eyes. The light of life goes out for him. He cannot speak to us nor we to him. He is gone and we are left stunned and heartbroken. An emptiness and loneliness comes into our hearts. We brokenheartedly say "That the one whom I loved is dead." It is such a cold, hopeless thing to realize. Then, out of the very depths of our despair, comes that marvelous declaration of our Lord: I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: and whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. John 11: 25,26
Then we know! We know we have not lost our loved ones who have died. We have just been separated, and as long as we live there will be an empty place left in our hearts. To some extent, the loneliness will always be there. But when we really know that one is not forever lost, it does seem to take away, a little bit, of the sorrow. There is a vast difference between precious memories, loneliness, the pain of separation, on the one hand, and a sorrow that ruins and blights our lives, on the other hand.
Hope these words are of comfort to you my friends. Please, please know that you are always on my mind and in my heart and prayers. My hands are not better yet, in fact the left one is very numb right now, so it is hard to type. But even though I can't write every day as I did before, I think of you every day. In Christian Love, Melissa
Not now, but in the coming years, it may be in the better land: we'll read the meaning of our tears, and there, some time, we'll understand.
Seeing Past Today / Melissa Smith Blakemoore.memory-of-.com Read >>
Seeing Past Today / Melissa Smith Blakemoore.memory-of-.com
If we could see beyond today As God can see, If all the clouds should roll away, The shadows flee; Over present grief's we would not fret, Each sorrow we would soon forget, For many joys are waiting yet For you and me. If we could know beyond today As God doth know, Why dearest treasures pass away, And tears must flow; And why the darkness leads to light, Why dreary days will soon grow bright, Some day life's wrong will be made right, Faith tells us so. If we could see, if we could know We often say, But God in love a veil doth throw Across our way. We cannot see what lies before, And so we cling to Him the more, He leads us till this life is over, Trust and obey. Close
Bereaved Parents Wish List I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had her/him back.
I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that she was important to you also.
If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child; my favorite topic of the day.
I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child and I will always grieve that she is gone.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself. Y
I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone. I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died, a big part of me died with her. I am not the same person I was before my child died and I will never be that person again. Y I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss and my grief. But.... I pray daily that you will never understand.
If You Could See Me Now... / Melissa Smith Blakemoore.memory-of-.com (none)Read >>
If You Could See Me Now... / Melissa Smith Blakemoore.memory-of-.com (none)
If you could see me now you wouldn't shed a tear. Though you may not understand why I'm no longer there. Remember my spirit that is the real me because I'm still very much alive, I've just been set free, Oh, if you could only see! I have beheld our Father's face and I have touched my Savior's hand. All of Heaven's angels rejoiced as I entered the promised land. Beyond the gates of pearl I've walked on the golden streets. I've touched the walls of jasper and dipped my foot in the crystal sea. The beauty is beyond words and nothing could compare, I've seen your mansion and someday I'll meet you there. Let Jesus be your guide because His word will show you the way! So please don't cry because we will meet again someday.
A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR We've seen the passing of another year. For many it's been filled with pain and tears. We've seen our loved ones in their decline. We've had to accept that they won't be fine. Some of us had to say good bye, To a CHILD, and we've all cried. But there have been times in this past year, That certain events have brought us cheer.
(even if it was a thought of our child) There are so many friends that are on the list, And I know there's names I will have missed. But better friends I could not have bought.
(than those at memory-of) And here is just a New Year's thought. If it were possible that a wish could come true, Then this is my New Year's wish for you. May the coming year be full of hope, And may we be given the strength to cope. Let courage, faith and patience abound. And let us pray that a cure will be found.
( for our broken hearts) And now at the close of another year, My friends, I wish you a Happy New Year.
Remembering You... / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)Read >>
Remembering You... / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)
Holidays are fast approaching where tinsel and lights shine bright, It’s the time for family and friends to sing out carols like 'Silent Night'. ~~^~~ Perhaps a joyous time for many celebrating the birthday of our Lord, Which is the true meaning of Christmas so why do many go out, and buy presents they can't afford? ~~^~~ Christmas parties at work and home enjoying the food and being merry, As decorations are hung with mistletoe, holly and berry. ~~^~~ For some of us it's a blue time when tears cascade so often, No matter how hard we try nothing seems to soften. ~~^~~ Whether you are alone or surrounded by loved ones, Loneliness is apparent especially missing a child. ~~^~~ No matter what religion you are and celebrate your way, Just remember this one thing for many of us it's just another day.
Remembering each of you in my prayers & in my heart. May God guide you through this holiday season. Love Melissa
THANK YOU FRIEND / SELMA FLYNN BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend)
It's the time of year when we're reminded to give thanks.
Instead of waiting until next year to be reminded,
Let's make every day one of thanksgiving;
After all, each day is a unique gift.
So, give a hug for no reason;
Say I love you, just because;
Share a smile with a stranger;
Take the time to count your blessings;
Don't take anything or anyone for granted;
And end each day with no regrets.
Thank you, my friends and family,
For sharing, caring, laughing and crying with me.
I'm truly blessed to have each and every one of you in my life
And I am thankful you have allowed me
To be a part of yours.
May you and yours have a safe and memorable Thanksgiving. Close
HAPPY BIRTHDAY / MOM
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY. MY SWEET LITTLE ANGLE YOUR 16 IN HEAVEN NOW, WISH YOU WERE HERE AND NOT THERE, HOPE YOUR DANCING AND PARTYING WITH GRAMS =0 SEND ALL OF US A SIGN THAT YOUR HAVING FUN UP THERE WERE ALL PRAYING FOR YOU
CHAIN OF COMFORT / SELMA FLYNN (POMC) BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend)
PLEASE REMEMBER NOV 1ST IS CHAIN OF COMFORT PLEASE JOIN US LITE A CANDLE ON YOUR LOVE ONE SITE PASS IT ON TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS IT WILL BE ALL DAY SO WE CAN PRAY FOR OUR SWEET ANGEL THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU. Close
MY CHILD / SELMA FLYNN BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend)
On the day God took you
I thought that I would die
I wondered where the time went?
I asked alot of whys??
With people all around me
I felt alone inside
From all their words of comfort,
I couldn't seem to hide, I thought I might be dreaming
That I'd wake and find you here,
I thought "This can't be happening."
As I wiped another tear.
On the day that you were laid to rest
My heart broke yet again,
I wondered if the pain would end,
But mostly, I wondered when??
It's hard to be without you,
At times the days seem long,
Sometimes I just sit crying,
When there's really nothing wrong.
I wish we'd had more time,
Before your life was done.
I hope your resting peacefully,
My precious child, Close
I am so sorry for your loss. I just found out. It's been so long, I didn't even know you had another daughter, but I knew you. I don't know what to say. There is nothing I can say. This sadness is beyond words.
BRIANNA;S 16 TH BIRTHDAY IS COMING UP ON NOV 1TH. THAT WAS A VERY SPECIAL DAY FOR ME WHEN SHE WAS BORN I WAS SOO EXCITED AND HAPPY.. BRIANNA WAS SUCH A GOOD BABY SHE LOVED TO BE HELD ALOT AND SNUGGLED ALL THE THE TIME.......... SHE WAS A HAPPY KID GROWING UP WE ALWAYS HAD A GOOD TIIME TOGETHER WHERE EVER WE WENT SHOPPING, EATING OUT, THE BEACH, MOVIES, PALMSPRINGS OR JUST HANGGING AROUND THE HOUSE. .......
Everyday i think about you. Its hard to only hear you in my thoughts. You were the most honest and kind hearted friend i ever had. I could have never imagined that a terrible accident would take you away from all of your friends and family. You were too young, too innocent, and loved by more than you know. Even now i keep asking god why it had to happen to you. I'll never her you call me brother bear like you always would do, and ill never let one day go by in my life where i dont think about you. I love you brianna, very much and i always will...we all will. You'll always be in my heart with unconditional love, i love you sister bear...